About Vanessa

Bringing the village back to modern parenting.

The journey into parenthood was never meant to be walked alone. I'm Vanessa O'Keefe, and after thirty-five years in the early-years sector, I can tell you that with absolute certainty.

My story

With over two decades in early childhood education and a Diploma in Children's Services, I thought I was fully prepared for motherhood. I had spent my career caring for little ones and supporting families. Yet when my own son arrived, I was met with a reality no textbook could describe. The hormonal shifts, the emotional rollercoaster, the unexpected isolation, all made me realise that even the most experienced hands need a village.

That personal journey redirected my heart. I extended my studies to become a certified Sleep Consultant, then quickly discovered that "training" a baby wasn't the answer. I returned to my roots in early-years education with a new understanding: sleep is a biological function, shaped by everything from airway health to digestive comfort. To truly support families from the very start, I added Hypnobirthing and Postpartum Doula services to my toolkit.

I believe that when we begin in calmness, and fill the support gap of those first twelve months, we empower mothers to trust their instincts and their babies. I am here to be that village for you: providing the evidence-based knowledge and compassionate care you need to get back on track whenever life feels sideways.

"When we understand the biology and nurture the mother, calmness becomes the foundation, not the finish line." This is the line that shapes everything I teach.
My philosophy

Rooted in biology, led by the heart.

The first year of life is a sacred window that requires a village of support, yet modern parenting often leaves us navigating it in isolation. My approach is built on three unwavering pillars.

Calmness is a starting point

We shouldn't wait for a crisis to seek peace. Beginning with Hypnobirthing prepares mind and body to meet parenthood from a place of regulation, not fear. When we start in calmness, we are already ahead.

Sleep is biological, not behavioural

I don't "train" babies to sleep. Sleep is a natural biological function that arrives when a child's system is in balance. My work focuses on root causes (digestive comfort, airway health, circadian rhythms) rather than quick fixes that ignore a baby's physical needs.

Nurturing the mother nurtures the child

The biggest gap in the parenting journey is the lack of support for mothers in the first twelve months. A mother who feels seen, heard, and supported is better equipped to understand her baby's cues. My postpartum work is designed to bridge that gap.

"My mission is to bring the village back, replacing isolation with evidence-based knowledge and compassionate care, so you can parent from a place of presence, not pressure."
Training & qualifications

Where the work comes from.

Diploma in

Children's Services

The foundational qualification underpinning thirty-five years of work in the early-years sector.

Certified

Sleep Consultant

Trained in responsive, biology-led infant sleep support, never cry-it-out, never one-size-fits-all.

Hypnobirthing Australia™

Positive Birth Practitioner

Accredited to deliver the full Hypnobirthing Australia™ Positive Birth Program for expectant parents and partners.

Vanessa O'Keefe, founder of CalmNess Parenting Support
A note from me

Why I do this work.

Because the first year is sacred, and shouldn't be lived in fight-or-flight. Because no parent should have to choose between their baby's needs and their own sanity. Because there's a calmer path, and I've spent my whole career walking it with families.

If something here resonates, the next step is simple: book a free fifteen-minute discovery call and tell me what's going on. No commitment, no pressure. Just a conversation.

Vanessa